Thursday, December 4, 2008

Next Item Up for Bid....

There's something about having a logo that makes us feel official! (Still working on getting the website and other such fun stuff done - oh, and all the legal hassels, but it's coming along)

My fabulous spouse found a company to turn our lovely logo into a symphony of satin stitching. Please give me a mental drumroll, while I present to you:



Now, we can start selling shirts with stitching on the website. And I think I'm going to see if Mom-in-Law's friend will help us put the logo on one of her lovely handmade purses. I think that would be a fun surprise for Nadia. What do you think?

We've joked that we need to get matching shirts the next time we go down to Haiti. Apparently in some ways, the missionary groups are safer than the rest of us Americans wandering around in Port-Au-Prince, and matching shirts would make us look like a missionary service group.

Anyone who's interested in getting a shirt that touts your support of this sweet orphanage and our fabulous kids - send me an email and we'll see what we can work out!

Wednesday, December 3, 2008

Helping Harry Help Haiti

It was a good day on the Hope for Little Angels of Haiti Esty store. Our first day in "operation" and we've had 3 orders. Of course, one of those was from my mother ordering a baby blanket made by my mother-in-law and generously paying the shipping fee even though she lives 15 minutes from me. Thanks, mom! The kids will appreciate every dime.

Another hefty order was from a dear friend who is also a Haitian Adoptive Mom and so she "gets it". Thank you again, Melissa.

And thank you as well to Julie in Texas who also ordered some of our banana leaf Christmas cards.

I believe I neglected to tell the backstory on the Christmas Cards....

After our October trip, we'd heard that an American soccer ball can be sold in Haiti for as much as $100. I thought, "If that's the case, we'll start taking flattened soccer balls down!!" So we sent a question through to Harry to find out if he thought he could make money reselling soccer balls. The response came back that he didn't think they could. So I sent a new query through asking if there was 'anything we could bring down to them that they could resell in Haiti".

Somewhere that may have potentially been lost in translation.

Several days later I received the response that Harry had thought of something and he would be sending me samples. Now I was completely confused. We were supposed to be taking things to them, right?

Well, on Dec 2nd we received a box from Haiti with 200 handmade Christmas cards in it. And a note explaining the history.

Harry, who works closely with the needy members of his faith as well as working at two orphanages, had rounded up some church members that did not have jobs and had them make these cards. He then paid for them himself at $1/card. His note said, "if you can post on the cards that buying these cards is giving food for some starving children and is giving jobs for some people".

I sent a message back through to Harry that I'd received the cards and that I hadn't meant for HIM to go to any expense personally, but that we'd definitely reimburse him on our next trip. And I thanked him for being so thoughtful as to find a way to serve the children and the people in his congregation that need work.

He responded that he wasn't worried if he didn't get back the money that he'd spent because:
I'm just open a door to find more money to help the orphanage with these kids. We really need money to save our children. We can't take care of them without receiving donation. We are working hard to create other opportunities to get money because we need a lot to spend for these kids everyday. I'm really appreciate the people which made these cards. I like to keep them busy and have them working to get money.
As usual, I'm overwhelmed with the generosity and love of the wonderful people we've met in Haiti. Harry and Nadia and their crew are truly amazing people and are some of the most giving, considerate, compassionate and noble individuals you'll ever meet.

He's right - they do "need a lot to spend for these kids everyday" because costs in Haiti are so astronomically high and they really can't take care of them without receiving donations."

If you'd like to tell others about these Christmas cards, or post the link to our little Etsy store on your own blog, PLEASE spread the word. I have about 160 cards left and it's Dec 3rd. Please help me help Harry to get these cards sold.

Tuesday, December 2, 2008

Good News and Fund Raising Opportunities

We heard from our agency today that Nathan will be kept one more night in the hospital and will be released tomorrow. They said that he's doing much better and should be full recovered soon.

Thank you so much for your prayers! We appreciate your support!

We also have a bit of an announcement. Our friends in Haiti have sent us some Christmas greeting cards that were made by some of the people they know that needed employment. We also have some beautiful baby blankets with crocheted edges that were made by Brent's mom. We've posted these on a little store on Etsy.com. We have some other friends and family who have offered to donate handmade items as well. We hope to be able to gather some funds for the orphanage through these items.

If you'd like to stop by and check out the few items we have available now, you can see the store here

I apologize in advance for my pictures on the site - we'll have to figure out some better lighting options soon!

I'm a bit nervous about this etsy store. We'll see how it goes. We've never done anything like this before.

Noble Beasts

And another distraction post...

I learned something FASCINATING this last week on the radio. Apparently, there is a segment of the population of this great country who believe that if someone in your household has asthma you should get a chihuahua.

Yes, a chihuahua.According to the DJs, the belief is that the dog will 'take your asthma' and the dog will then be sick and you will become well!

There are many questions that arise when I think about this line of logic. For starters, it seems like a very MEAN thing to do to the poor, unsuspecting dog! It seems rather vicious. Secondly, if you were going to believe that a dog had the ability to absorb your asthma why wouldn't you pick a dog with a greater lung capacity than the noble chihuahua? I mean, imagine what a MASTIFF could do in the same circumstances.

Check out those nostrils! He should be able to cure a fleet of sick asthmatics!

But really, aren't chihuahuas kinda wheezy dogs anyway? I suspect it has less to do with asthma absorption and more to do with inherent tiny nasal passages, but what do I know??

And I can say I'm very glad my friend, Michelle, uses an inhaler rather than a chihuahua to treat her asthma....

No offense intended to any noble, self-sacrificing chihuahuas that may be among my readership! May you and all your people breathe happily ever after!

Monday, December 1, 2008

Not ALWAYS Photogenic

I need something to distract me from the fact that we haven't heard any more about Nathan's health since they told us this weekend he's in the hospital.

This pic is posted for my dear friend, Princess Heather, who asked if it was even POSSIBLE for a child as cute as Jessica to take a "bad picture".

The answer to that is, "YES! My goodness, Yes!"

I think I was trying to get a picture of her little flicking tongue action and inadvertently captured a bug-eyed moment that is completely awesome!

Now you can compare My Worst, with Brent's Best and see that we really are quite happily married. He makes up for all that I lack!

Sunday, November 30, 2008

Sending Out Happy Thoughts For Nathan

With Nathan in the hospital in Haiti, with IVs in his arms and just trying to endure, I thought I should post some pictures of Nathan and Daddy.

Remember we were reunited with Nathan Thursday night and that we left Saturday morning. We don't have a lot of pictures of him from this trip.



I love his little expression in this one. I'm not sure what I was doing and it looks like he's not quite sure either.

We didn't think we'd ever again see this little boy. So to be able to watch him playing and laughing with his Daddy.... beautiful.


My handsome boys! Love you both so dearly!

Hang in there, Nate. We're praying that you'll feel better soon and that you can be back to running around and being happy with your sister very soon.

We are also praying that this hospital trip turns out better than Malot's trip and that you'll actually come back to the orphanage and continue to grow and thrive and be happy until we can come and be with you again.

We love you, Nate. Get well soon!

Saturday, November 29, 2008

Prayers, Please

We just were updated that little Nathan is very sick and in the hospital. We're confident they're trying to do what's best for him, but we pray he'll be better soon.

It's so tough to keep the kids well in country that has so little and where there is so much disease and poor water, etc. We hope to be able to get a water filtration system to them with our next trip. I wish there was a magic injection we could give them that would keep them well until we can get them home!

Namesakes

I know that it's nearly December. I'm a bit late these days (ask Cliss!)

I felt the need to share these with the world.

Our little Nathan is named after Brent's best friend. Uncle Nate has the COOLEST Halloween costume on the entire planet. (And yes, he does own the horse and no, he didn't rent him for the costume)

When he rides down the street, the horse's hooves spark against the pavement and add to the ambiance of it all.

Nate and his friend, Woody, hauled the horse around to some friends and family in our little town. They'd get Nate loaded up and in costume on Jet (the horse) and position him right in front of the front door. And then Woody would call the homeowners and tell them that he was in their driveway and could they come "give him a hand" with something. Woody would then stand back and "watch the magic" as the poor, unsuspecting homeowners would open their front door and find The Headless Freakin' Horseman!!!!!

PLUS, Uncle Nate gives out full-size candy bars!

It's truly awesome to see him in his full getup.

We love you both! Thank you for everything you've done and continue to do for us and the kids. We can scarcely wait for Little Nate to meet Uncle Nate.

Wednesday, November 26, 2008

I’m Small, I Know, But Wherever I Go the Grass Grows Greener Still

A couple of people have asked me recently how they can give to our orphanage as part of their families' Christmas celebrations this year. I thought I'd post the info here so that anyone interested can get the details.

We still don't have our non-profit org set up. In order to get a receipt for your tax-deductible donation, it should be sent to:

Wasatch International Adoptions

3755 Washington Blvd. Suite 300

Ogden, Utah 84403

Please sure to indicate that you'd like it donated to "Hope for Little Angels of Haiti" as they deal with many orphanages and are a non-profit organization themselves. Indicating your intent will help them allocate it as you'd like.

Thank you for caring about our kids!

Some of the things we're working on right now:

  1. A water filtration system for the orphanage. The O got giardia after the hurricanes earlier this year and that comes from unclean water. We want to help them meet their own needs and not be forced to BUY bottled water when funds are so tight to begin with.
  2. A generator for the orphanage. Electricity in Haiti is spotty at best. There are periods every day where the orphanage doesn't have power. That means no ceiling fans, even, to try to keep the tropical heat down. In the evening, the children go to bed when the sun goes down because they don't have power at night. Imagine how cranky and uncomfortable you feel when you're hot and sticky and then magnify that by 50+ to try to get a gist of what they're dealing with.
  3. We've recently had an English teacher start teaching at the O. This is a benefit to not only the children, but also helps the Aunties who work at the orphanage as knowing English will help them to improve their own lives and provide different job opportunities.
  4. Of course, food, food, food. Everything is so expensive in Haiti. For a few months this summer and fall the O was only able to feed the children one meal per day. We want to keep that from happening again.

The title of this post is from a favorite song from my childhood. The song is about a little stream who realizes that, even though he's just a little bit of water he makes a difference with what he does. We feel like a tiny stream right now trying to quench a parched desert. With your help and support we can make a difference - little by little.

Tuesday, November 25, 2008

More Good News

We were notified today that Nathan's mother has also completed her USCIS interview. Since it was this interview that caused her to 2nd guess her decision to place Lexi and Nathan earlier this year we've been very nervous about this 2nd interview.

It apparently went "very well".

Now we're at the same point with both files. They've both completed their birth parent interviews and we're waiting for USCIS to process our dossiers.

Still no word on Malot.

Monday, November 24, 2008

And the Award Goes to....

Brent's now an award winning photographer.

Granted it's just my company's internal photography contest, open only to employees and their spouses. It was judged by an independent panel made up of members of the Utah Arts Council. I figure they should know what they're talking about.

Plus, this is just a fabulous picture. Even if I am ridiculously partial to both the photographer and the subject matter.


(This was taken the 1st day of this last trip. We were still at the orphanage, after meeting the kids again.)

Friday, November 21, 2008

Article from msnbc.com

Kids forced into domestic servitude in Haiti
'Restavek' system thrives as impoverished families have little choice

PORT-AU-PRINCE, Haiti - Evans Antoine wakes at 7 a.m. and dusts himself off from his night on the floor. While other children in his middle-class neighborhood overlooking the Haitian capital head to school, the 15-year-old puts on toeless sneakers and gets to work washing dishes, scrubbing floors and running errands at the market. He also works in the yard and sometimes wields a scythe in the family's fields.

There is little reward for his toil, except for food and a roof over his head. And often, the quality of his work isn't good enough; his caretakers sometimes hit him with a switch or slap him on the back of the scalp. Once they tied his hands and put a bag over his head before beating him with a stick.

This has been his life for the past three years.

"They tell me that I'm useless," Antoine said, speaking softly at a meeting secretly arranged by a teacher who taught him briefly and who fears for his future. "They yell at me and tell me about all the things they do for me and how easy I have it."

During the interview, Antoine never smiled. He also kept looking away while answering questions, clearly uncomfortable with the subject: his unforgiving life.

Antoine is a restavek, a Haitian term derived from the French for "stay with." But, he would rather be described by the more genial-sounding Creole phrase meaning "one who lives with people." He is among 300,000 children, 10 percent of Haitians under 18, who serve as domestics for other families, a tradition in Haiti dating back to the country's independence more than 200 years ago.

Haiti revolted against French colonial rule and became the first "black republic" in 1804. With newly emancipated slaves in power, it also became the first nation to outlaw slavery. Dependent on coffee and sugar, however, Haiti kept the plantation system after the revolution, requiring "mandatory labor" of many citizens. The masters were no longer white, but working conditions improved only marginally.

Children were particularly susceptible. The sons and daughters of slaves remained house servants following the revolution, indentured to newly rich army officers who took over the plantations.

Key to the economy
Today child workers remain an important part of Haiti's economy, a system that barely sustains a nation of 8.7 million that is wracked by poverty and lawlessness.

Haiti is the poorest country in the Western hemisphere. A little over half of primary school-age children are enrolled in school, according to UNICEF, and less than 2 percent finish secondary school.

Children become restaveks in a variety of ways. Some, like Antoine, are orphaned and taken in by family friends. Others are runaways pulled off the street. Most are given up by parents from depressed rural areas who can't afford to care for them and hope that another family will do better and send them to school.


Antoine's case is an example of what so often goes wrong. His adoptive family promised to pay his tuition, but when it came time to do so, his adoptive father reacted harshly. "He said I was lying and he beat me," he said.

In fact, the majority of families are only slightly better off than restaveks' parents, despite living in the capital.

"It is not in Haitian culture to send children away," said Guerda Constante, a child-rights activist in the small coastal city of Jacmel. "Parents do this because they do not have the means to provide for their needs. It seems strange, but the parents are acting with love."

Promises by host families to feed, educate and take care of the children are just too alluring to poor parents, Constante said. In some cases, the new family meets those promises, but in most cases, she says, "the difference between the promise and reality is seen on the first day they arrive."

Rural poverty
It takes a bumpy four hours in a 4x4 to make the 60-mile trek from Port-au-Prince to the rural village of Fond des Blancs, where electricity and running water are scarce. The center of activity — a foreign foundation-funded hospital, a church and an outdoor meeting hall — sit in the middle of the valley.

Over the treeless mountains to the south lies the Caribbean Sea. Single-room, thatched-roof huts dot the landscape, many housing families with 10 children or more.

Fond des Blancs has little communication with Port-au-Prince and the capital's political system has nearly no influence on the area. Lack of police has made it a favorite destination for Colombian planes to drop drugs for local Haitian runners to send onto the United States.

While some families farm or make charcoal, most have no regular means of support. In the most depressed areas, fortunate children are those that are fed once a day.
Children in places like these, activists say, are most at risk of winding up in the restavek system.

"More than 50 percent of the children in Fond des Blancs don't have the chance to go to school," said Briel Leveille, a community leader and member of COSEDERF. "It is said that education is the foundation of development. It is through education that Haitians will one day come out of this misery."

One U.S. community gets involved
Hearing about the lack of education, one American school has become involved with the Haitian community.

At the Seth Boyden Elementary school in Maplewood, N.J., the PTA is trying to set up a sister-school relationship with those in Fond des Blancs. Students have been collecting school supplies and attended a Haitian Flag Day celebration.

"I hope we can do a lot more than this," said Tamara Thompson, a former U.N. observer in Haiti who now resides in Maplewood and has a 9-year-old son who attends Seth Boyden. "Education is a key to ending the restavek system and it is their right."

For now, however, many parents in Fond des Blancs see the restavek system as the only hope for their children.

"I'm afraid to send them, but I really don't have any choice," said Rodette Clermanceau, a mother of 10 in Fond des Blancs. She is sending two of her children to Port-au-Prince to work for other families. Clermanceau has been raising her children alone since the father was sent to prison.

"If I had the financial means, I would not give them away," she said.

Drumroll, please...........

......we were told today that Jessica's mother did come for her birthparent interview with USCIS and that it went "very well".


WHOO-HOO! Two Points for the Lord!

If I thought I could do a cartwheel without ruining more than my pride, I'd do it!

That's all we know, but that's something great!

Still no word on Malot...

Wednesday, November 19, 2008

Awesome Made Up Game #426

Jess thought the pool was pretty sucky. She didn't like the whole "wet" part. I think that was the core of the issue. She did invent a fun game to play with Daddy while Daddy was helping the other kids play in the pool. (Remember none of these kids have been at a pool before, so everyone needs to be held by an adult to prevent that pesky DROWNING issue from occuring)

Step 1: Find beach ball. Carry it to edge of pool. Try hard not to ooze cuteness but fail miserably.

Step 2: Chuck ball at Daddy who is in the pool. Make Momma laugh at the cute little ruffles on your bum and the way your swim suit WILL NOT stay up.
3. Be delighted in how clever you are and giggle to yourself as you run away from the edge of the pool.
4. The next step in the game is for Dad to throw the ball back to the cement so you can chase it. Momma didn't get good pics of that. So imagine Dad chucking the ball back.

5. Repeat.
She does this little thing where she chews on her lip all the time. This is a good image of "Jessica": Toddling around, being busy, chewing her lip and being too stinking cute for her own good!

This is a shot of Jess giggling to herself as she runs away from the pool just after chucking the ball. There's that lip chewing thing again. It's terribly unfortunate how cute she is.This picture delights me. I love her eyes. She's such a vibrant little soul.
Can't wait to see you again, Sweetheart! We love you!

Monday, November 17, 2008

Holding Our Breath...

Today was supposed to be the day that Jessica's mom met with USCIS.

This is a big deal for us because a) it gets one more step out of the way for one of the children and b) it was this interview that freaked out Lexi and Nathan's mom earlier this year and caused her to take the kids back. We're very nervous and anxious for news that she came and that it went well.

Rachael asked why Lexi didn't come back with Nathan. The reason there is that they have different fathers. Nathan's father has agreed with the decision to place him for Adoption. Lexi's father has had a change of heart since she was originally placed in the orphanage last year. She's not going to be placed for adoption again. At least at this point.... one never knows about these things.

A few items that are also concerning from a blog written by a woman who keeps track of international adoption issues and status - particularly for Haiti. See her most recent post here

Saturday, November 15, 2008

Update on Files

This last week we finally received our IBESR file numbers for Jessica and Nathan!

What does that mean? It means this office is officially looking at our dossier. It's usually at least a couple of months before they finish with that, but at least we're officially in the next step. Brent updated the text on our side bar so you can see that we've inched one step closer!

Still no word at all on Malot.

Thanks for your prayers and support.

Monday, November 10, 2008

Stuck In a Moment You Can't Get Out Of

I have had a hard time posting since we returned from this last trip. On some level, I feel like if I post about the kids and share my excitement, we'll lose them again.

This has been the year of deja vu. Let me take you on a little stroll down memory lane.

This is our family in January when we went to meet our daughter and son. We'd been matched with them since October.

We were so thrilled to meet and be with Lexi and Nathan. Love at first sight! Daddy knew this was his son. We were so grateful and happy.

Then February came and we found out their mother had changed her mind and we'd lost them.

In March, we started over and selected beautiful Malot to be our son. And it felt right and our hearts were healing and we were happy.

In June we went down to meet Malot (never heard another word on Lexi and Nathan). Malot, as you may remember, kept talking about his friend named Jessica. So we went back to the orphanage on Thursday of that week and brought Jessica with us as well. Once again we were a family.It seemed fated, led, meant to be. And we were grateful and we were happy.


We made plans to go back and visit Malot and Jessica in October. Our flight left on a Sunday. The Friday before that we were told that Malot had been very ill and that his uncle (who hadn't been to the orphanage to see him in 3.5 years) had taken him back. The orphanage had pulled in the authorities, but children don't have rights in Haiti. He was gone.

We moved forward with the trip, hoping and praying that we'd be able to find Malot's uncle. So we went to visit our Jessica. Thursday of that trip we were notified that Lexi and Nathan's mom had changed her mind AGAIN and that Nadia had been working with her for a few weeks to make sure she was "definite" this time. They took Nathan's mom to the courts and she and his birthfather signed relinquishment papers in front of the judge. So we got Nathan back and we were shocked and in awe and stunned and grateful and we were happy.
So after all of that, we're in the exact same spot now that we were in January. Our files are still waiting to go into IBESR. We've lost this year. Since this process takes about a year, we're still a year out from being able to bring them home.

Brent and I both have frequent dreams about the kids. Sometimes for me, it's just Nathan and Jessica. Sometimes Malot is there, too. Sometimes they're fabulous dreams. Sometimes they're terrifying. And each time, we wake up with our arms empty and wonder if this time it will "stick".

It seems like this year has been about introductions, falling in love and loss. I'm not sure what else can happen and I'm afraid to blog about it because I don't even understand it myself.

What does it take to get our family to "stick"?

Saturday, November 8, 2008

It's a New Day

This isn't about who you did or didn't vote for. This isn't about who I voted did or didn't vote for. I'm not saying the right person won or lost this election. And I'm certainly not saying this election was about race and color.

All that aside, this mom is grateful that her children are coming to this country after we've had the first black President of the United States. This changes everything. It breaks through things that have been barriers for years. We've had to deal with racism from people very close to us when they found out about our adoption goals. In a hundred tiny ways, this election makes it harder for people to have hatred based solely on the color of someone's skin.

This song says it well:
I woke up this morning
Feeling brand new
Cause the dreams that I've been dreaming
Have finally came true...

It's time for you and me
For us and we
That's you and me together...

'Cause we weren't fighting for nothing
And the soldiers weren't fighting for nothing
No, Martin was dreaming for nothing
And Lincoln didn't change it for nothing
And children weren't crying for nothing

("It's a New Day" by will.i.am)

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God Bless America!

Tuesday, November 4, 2008

Pam's right... We basically have twins....




Love these pictures.

I'm also struck by how these hideous bedspreads are going to be such a part of our lives forever. They're in SO MANY of our pictures of and with our kids.

Thursday, October 30, 2008

Getting Things to Haiti

Haiti appears on many interesting lists. For example, did you know there is a "Corruption Perceptions Index" that ranks the countries of the world according to the amount of corruption that is perceived to exist among public officials and politicians in that country. The study defines corruption as "the abuse of entrusted power for private gain"

Haiti comes in 4th. from the bottom, that is. The 4th worst place on the planet for corrupt government.

Many complain about corruption within our own government. To give you a comparison, of the 179 countries on the index, the USA ranks 20th of 179. We're in the least corrupt parts of the globe comparatively. Haiti is number 177 of 179.

For this reason, we don't send things to Haiti. We hand carry them. My handsome 6'4" Brent makes a clever safe for packing large stacks of bills into the country. We've taken thousands in cash with us each time and never had a problem because, seriously... who would mess with Brent??

We're in the process of getting a not-for-profit organization started for the orphanage. We're still working through the tax paperwork there. My friend, Melissa just had an awesome idea for some fundraisers. We'll keep you posted on that as it comes to pass. Once we get the proper tax status, then I can go hit up bigger companies for donations because then it's a tax write off for them.

And we hope...

we hope for a trip soon....

We hope the children will be healthier and happier the next time we see them...

We hope we'll be led to find ways to raise money for what they so desperately need...

We hope they know how much they're love and by how many already...

We hope.

Monday, October 27, 2008

Nathan

Nathan is a sweet, gentle soul. He's just a tender-hearted pork-n-bean, just like his mother was at that age. He's a very loving little man. He's sensitive and snuggly and he's very attached to his daddy.

Jessica is 100% fiesty Haitian. Not from Concentrate. She's also very sweet, but she knows what she wants and she knows what she doesn't want. She's got a goofy little personality and she's starting to make games up. She didn't have a lot to work with but one of her favorites was called, "Whack Daddy on the leg and run away so he has to chase me". That one was delightful.


Nathan has these beautiful eyelashes that reach to his brows. And these large, deep eyes that are so expressive. And the most perfect little lips. I love his lips. I wish you could all have the opportunity to cover his lips and cheeks in kisses!


Nathan is also part chipmunk. You may not have known that.


We fed him dinner and then returned to our room and washed their hands and faces. He was running around the room playing with his sister. About 15 minutes later, I notice he's chewing something. So I go fish it out of his mouth. Oh! It's a piece of chicken that he'd been holding in some of the storage space inside his ample kissable cheeks. I see he's learning about keeping a food supply early. One never knows when one might get a mite peckish and need a bit of chicken to fill the gap.

Other things he can do with his lips:
LOOK, MA! NO HANDS!!
I will be posting answers to some of the questions in the next blog, I hope.

Sunday, October 26, 2008

And So My Needs Are Great...

This was a harder trip than the others, and not just because of the emptiness caused by Malot's absence.

When we arrived, we found the orphanage was struggling. They'd recently been hit with Giardia and many of the children had been very ill. A couple had been hospitalized again. The hurricanes changed circumstances in Haiti. Food became more difficult to get and costs rose once again. The orphanage had only been able to feed the children once per day for some time and the children were dealing with the effects of that. Some of these little ones are struggling so much. There are children between 18 months and 2 years who weigh around 10 lbs. It's so heartbreaking to see them so weak and so ill and know that you can only hold them for such a short time at present. We brought food down, donated by Feed My Starving Children. Unfortunately, with the weight limits imposed by the airlines and with the items we needed to bring down to care for our children during our week at the hotel, we weren't able to bring as much food as we would have liked. Brent estimated that it would get them through a month, if they ate only that.

We won't be able to return with more funds and supplies until after the first of the year. We're so worried about how to help them get over these current struggles. People think that because Haiti is impoverished the cost of things there must be very cheap. While labor may be cheap, food and shelter are NOT. The costs to run an orphange, even one as small as ours, are nearly overwhelming.

What we really need is for some of these adoptions to be finalized so some of these children can come home. Unfortunately, that's out of their hands just as it's out of ours. We're all at the mercy of government officials in both Haiti and America. We're waiting for PROCESS to happen and for PAPERWORK to be completed. And every day is another day of struggle, both in the hearts of the waiting families and in the physical trials of the little ones.

Saturday, October 25, 2008

Why We Make Trips to Haiti

I'm stealing this entry from my friend, Melissa's blog. It made me cry.

I know what these trips to Haiti do for Brent and I. I know why we go. It was great to hear Melissa's son, Luc explain what the trips had done for him. Melissa's kids have been home since the end of July. They're about 5 and 6, I believe.

http://melissasdeepthoughts.blogspot.com/2008/10/14-months-ago-seth-and-i-visited-kids.html

14 months ago, Seth and I visited the kids at the orphanage and took them a Mickey and Minnie Mouse stuffed animal. They STILL talk about it all of the time and tell me how much they loved those. Today, we went to the Disney Store and they were ecstatic to see the very same Mickey and Minnie that they had left behind in Haiti. I let them buy a new one today and they have not left either of their sides since. Tonight when Seth came home, I realized why these were so significant to them. Luc attacked Seth as soon as he walked in the door and showed him his Mickey and said, "Look dad, Mickey Mouse like you brought Luc at the orphanage and then Luc had a mom and a dad and Lyvi and Coltyn." That was the first time that Seth had met them and they associate the Mickey and Minnie with becoming a family.

Friday, October 24, 2008

Jess and Her Crazy Tongue

Jess is always doing something with her tongue. It's probably a sign of how high our phone bills will be when she hits junior high.

She kept licking things as well. The wall. The mirror. The bedspread. The BOTTOM of her SANDALS. (Nasty in the US... Completely revolting and a serious health risk in Haiti)

This clip was taken right after the clip of Nathan and Jessica playing with the blocks. She's playing with a little photo album we brought for her. It's filled with pictures of her, Malot and Mommy and Daddy. We left it with her so she can look at it until we come back. She was quite delighted with it and loved the pictures of herself. She could correctly point to "Poppa" in a picture by the end of the week.

I like the funny little smile she gives after she pokes at Nathan in this clip. I like to think she knows that he's important in her little future (even though we have no plans for them to marry! :) )

Thursday, October 23, 2008

Peek-A-Boo

Jessica playing Peek-A-Boo....It's kind of nice that her birth name is the one we're keeping. "Jessica" and "No" are the only two words we said that she understood and she wasn't too fond of the "NO" so at least she responded favorably to "Jessica".

There's something about that tone of voice that you use when you are playing Peek-A-Boo, though... it's the same tone of voice everywhere, I think. You know the one.... where she puts her hands over her eyes and you say,

"WHHEEEERREE'S Jessica???? WHHEEEERRREEE'S Jessica???"

and then when she uncovers her eyes you say,

"THERE she is!!!!"

and everyone claps and you all agree it's the best game ever and you play it again.

Yeah, that's the voice. She totally gets that. That game rocks (apparently).

Nathan, on the other hand, doesn't know his name is "Nathan". His birth name is "John Peter", and we're not keeping it. He'll catch on, but for now, we just keep saying his name and trying to get his attention at the same time.

Wednesday, October 22, 2008

Turning Darkness Into Light




And The Winner Is...


Or "The Today Show Logo", as we're calling it. Nadia, Harry, Abel and crew were so excited to see all the logos that had been put together for them. I think it was yet another reminder that there really are people elsewhere that care about what they're doing.

Saturday, October 18, 2008

Stop Me If You Think You've Heard This One Before....

Sorry for the delays and lack of posting. We didn't have internet access the rest of the week in Haiti and were even unable to get connected in Miami Saturday night.

I'm not even sure how to describe this last week.... Still no word on Malot. It may be some time before we hear anything. Unfortunately, the uncle is what Harry calls "a bad man" and he says it's literally not safe for them to send someone to try to reason with the uncle just yet. Please don't ponder too long on what that means for Malot... It's not a good train of thought.

We did have the most unbelievable week. I can't adequately tell the story of what happened and how things came to be so I guess I'll just be direct and tell you our most recent change:

We were reunited with Nathan this week.

I know, we were stunned as well. His birth mother and father decided that they do need to give him up. Apparently, she's been contacting Nadia (the orphanage director) every day for the last 3 weeks, asking her to take him and place him again. Nadia basically told her to make up her mind and then get back to her.

Nothing is ever "set" in Haiti, but his birth parents did go before a judge on Thursday and sign relinquishment papers. That is a very good step in the direction we want - it makes it far less likely that she'll waffle again. Nadia told us on Tuesday that there was a possibility that we'd get Nathan back that week, but we were very guarded and hesitant to get our hopes up.

Our friends were at the orphanage when Nathan's parents brought him in on Thursday. A driver took the parents to the court, and Nathan got to "hang out" with our friends at the O for the next 4 hours. I use the term "hang out" loosely. Apparently he screamed and cried and cried and screamed until he puked. He was NOT happy. And it didn't seem to matter who was holding him.

When Nathan's parent's papers were taken care of with the judge, our friends at the O loaded up and came back to the hotel where we were. We saw the group walking into the hotel plaza with a child in their arms and were stunned - disbelieving that it really may have happened.

Sure enough, he was there and he's ours again.


Here's Nathan in January of this year when we met him:And here he is now:

We missed you so much, Nathan! And you are grounded for the rest of your life for leaving for 9 months without telling Mommy where you're going!

More stories to come...

And yes, this means that we're going to request approval for THREE kids, in case Malot comes back. After all, stranger things have happened.

People are going to think I make this stuff up!

Thursday, October 16, 2008

This picture was taken when we went to pick her up at the orphanage. We gave her crackers, so you can see the yummy remnants of those on her sweet cheeks.

She's been under the weather, but we finally got an antibiotic. She's doing better and has actually been playing and smiling today. She's still kind of unsure of what to do with all this attention from two adults.

She thinks the pool is of the devil. She nearly comes out of her skin when you get her wet. Not fun for this little lady! That's been a change since Malot had such a great time at the pool last trip. It's been good overall though as it's left Uncle Brent free to play with other kids in the pool.

We were able to file our papers with USCIS for Jessica, but that was an adventure that will have to be explained in detail in another post.

Last night we used Skype to call both of our mothers. If you're unfamiliar with that application, it allows you to use your computer to place phone calls. If both users have web cameras you can see each other over the computer. Sweet little Jessica played Peek-a-Boo with both of her grandmas last night over the computer. She kept trying to feed them some of her food and she touched their faces on the computer screen over and over again. She was chewing on a bracelet when we called Brent's mom and she made up this little game where she would take a bite and then hold it up to Grandma for her to "take a bite". She likes to share (mostly). It was very sweet! Thank heavens for modern technology!

Still no word on Malot.

Tuesday, October 14, 2008

Variations on a Theme


Jessica

We've decided she's at least two. She can climb stairs all by herself. She has the most amazing hair on the planet. She's pretty laid back, but if she doesn't want something she will DEFINITELY tell you. She sleeps really well and we're finally getting her to the point where she'll giggle with us. She's a beautiful little girl and we're very much in love.

Update from Haiti

We haven't had internet access since we arrived, but the hotel has it fixed now.

We made it just fine. We picked up Jessica and she's doing wonderfully. She's got a silly, sassy personality and she's a bit of a diva. :D

Still no news at all about Malot. At least, no good news. The uncle apparently lives in a village some distance from PAP and our folks at the O are trying to see if they can make arrangements to bring him to PAP to meet with us. Everything in Haiti is slow, manual, and delayed, so we'll see if things work out that way. We haven't heard how Malot is doing physically, but our contacts do feel that the uncle intended to get medical assistance for him. We're hopeful that has taken place.

I wasn't prepared for how difficult it was for me to unpack Malot's things and just put them all in a bag and set them aside for the week.

I'll post some pictures tonight. Looks like Blogger has a scheduled outtage at some point tonight, so we'll try to work around that and our own internet access.

Thank you so much for all the prayers. We feel like this will eventually work out for the best even though things don't make sense to us right now. Hope springs eternal...

Saturday, October 11, 2008

Lightening Does Strike Twice on the Same Heart

We received from terrible, devastating news on Friday afternoon. Apparently, Malot is much sicker than how it was presented to us the day before when we found out he was in the hospital. The details are very sketchy, but here's what we know, as quoted from the email we received:

"Abel, the orphanage manager, was taking Malot from one hospital to another facility where there is a specialist that could look at Malot. Apparently, Malot has had diarrhea for days and has lost so much weight that they are so worried about how extremely sick he has been. As they were leaving the first hospital Malot’s uncle (the one who brought him to the orphanage initially) showed up and was very upset at Malot’s condition. He said that he wanted to take Malot home. Abel called the police because he was afraid if the uncle took Malot, Malot may not make it. But the police really do not care about the orphanage and adoptive families or anything like that so they gave Malot to the uncle.
We really do not have much other information. We don’t know if he just wanted to take him to nurse him back to health or if he thought Malot was not going to make it and he should be with family."
Yes, you read that last part right - the uncle apparently feels he's so deathly ill that he's taking him home to die.

We've been reeling since this information was received on Friday afternoon. I can't fathom not having Malot with us. I'm furious that he's apparently THAT sick and it seems that they only tried to get him to the hospital the day before. I'm terrified that the uncle won't trust the orphanage to give him back. I'm scared that we won't be able to find the uncle to try to meet with him and explain that as much as this little boy is his nephew, he is also our son. I'm horrified that perhaps the uncle is right and Malot "isn't going to make it". I'm terrified of meeting Harry at the airport and having him tell me those words that would indicate that Malot's illness beat him and he's no longer our beautiful boy.

What is wrong with these processes and governments and people and all of this huge mess? Why do so many children die before they can get to a place with food, clean water, medicine and a momma and poppa that they don't have to share.

Some one said, 'If this doesn't work out with Malot, you can just pick another kid!" For starters, this isn't a shoe store. We're talking about families. Eternal impacting things. And for secondars, this is like having a miscarriage, but after you've loved, fed, hugged, cared for, snuggled, played and talked to them. How many miscarriages do you try before you just have to take the hint and quit doing what you're doing?

We need hope, we need peace, we need prayers.

We need Malot to survive until we get there. We need Harry to be able to find Malot's uncle and take us there. We need the gift of tongues to help us communicate with this man. We need angels to attend us. We need angels by Malot's beside to comfort him and help him heal. We need it to not be too late. We need to hang on to the way Malot led us to Jessica and the rightness the situation with the two have them as always felt.

We need our son. please, let us find him and get him to the right doctor and help him to get well.

Thursday, October 9, 2008

Do You Think I'd Get Any Takers if I Posted on Craigslist Looking for "Wealthy Person Wanting to Adopt an Orphanage"?

I'm just asking... trying to get creative here.

We've been very blessed by great friends and family. More people from my old company (Brent's current company) have contributed money for the orphanage and we received a very sweet note on our door from our best friends with some O money in it.

One never knows how these things will turn out... in Haiti, you can get admitted to a hospital without paying, but they won't discharge you until you've paid your bill. Harry has to be concerned every time someone gets sick - wondering if they'll be able to pull together the funds to pay for the doctor or the hospital or the medicine. There's no insurance in Haiti which means there's not a "co-pay"... it's more like "all pay". You have to pay the full bill yourself.

I gather that there is another little child in addition to Malot that's in the hospital right now, so it's very fortunate that we're going down so quickly and can bring funds to pay for these children's medical care.

Everything is so expensive there. People think because it's a third world country that things are cheap. Not so. It's harder to get things there so things are very expensive. It costs Nadia $3500/month to feed the children, and that doesn't include the rent, the wages for the aunties, the utilities, medical care, clothing for the children, the teacher we're trying to get, etc, etc, etc.

You don't realize how lucky you are. So many things we take for granted. I need to update my "Good Stuff" post to include:

Medication. Checking Accounts. Salary pay. Insurance. Instacare. Co-pays. Stability. Health. Clean water.

If No News is Good News, Then...

... we should learn to be happy with no updates.

We received word today that Malot has been sick and is ill enough that they put him in the hospital. He's pretty dehydrated from his illness.

Fortunately, we'll be there with him in a couple of days. We dealt with a very ill child on our January trip, so we're preparing ourselves for more of the same.

Please keep us in your prayers.

Wednesday, October 8, 2008

I Am Lethal Nervous

This post is brought to you by Tums, Advil PM and the number 2.

Christmas Eve is National Insomnia Day for me. If I have selected gifts that I know people are going to love, I can't sleep in anticipation of their reaction. I love to watch people's faces when they see what's in the box. I start thinking about it a couple of days before hand and by the time Christmas Eve arrives I can hardly wait.

These last couple of weeks have been like one really long Christmas Eve for me. I can't sleep. The anticipation is killing me. I can scarcely wait to walk into the O and see Malot. I don't know if they tell them that we're coming (can you imagine what THAT anticipation is like for them??).

Last time we walked into the O and all the kids were sitting around in the converted carport. They were singing and just hanging out. Momma spotted Malot right away. I picked out those eyes and knew that was my little boy.

This time, he'll recognize us. Will he be happy? Will he be mad that we left him? Will he be worried next week, wondering when we'll leave him again? Will he be shy? Will he come right to us? What about Jessica? She's so little and it's been 4 months. Since we saw her last, she's moved into the orphanage with all those kids. She's got a much bigger social circle this time than she had last time. Will she remember us? Will she be sad to come with us again? Will she remember her Daddy? (they were best buds last time)

A kind woman from Brent's work brought over a few bags of new summer children's clothes. Thank you, Tricia! So many beautiful things!

Someone very near and dear to us gave us money for our orphanage. We're so grateful for the support for our kids.

3 days, 10 hours and some change....

Bring on the Advil PM.

Monday, October 6, 2008

Logos (cont.)

So I have a great friend who has been gracious enough to lend a helping hand to the logo aspect. As you can she is very creative and has a vast amount of talent! Thank you Colleen!
We would love to start collecting feedback as to which of the 3 you prefer. (Power to the People!)
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Sunday, October 5, 2008

I'm All for Keeping Things All in the Family, but That's Just Creepy

I've had the same doctor for over half my life. His nurses all know me and they've been aware of all the things we've gone through on our road to adoption.

When I went to see him this last week, I took pictures of Malot and Jessica to show to the kind women who work there.

So there I am, at the nurse's station in the back of his office showing pictures to his two nurses. Of course, other nurses gather as well. I explain to the new arrivals that we're adopting from Haiti.

One of the women I've never seen before asks me if they were brother and sister. I say, "They will be..." and leave it for her to think about. That's one of those weird questions people often ask about adoptive children. I was prepared for it.

I wasn't prepared for what happened next.

The same woman asked something along the lines of, "Well, if they're not brother and sister, why are you getting both of them?" I explained that Malot kept talking about his friend Jessica, so we went back to the orphanage and found Jessica.

She looked at me, with this accusing eye and said rather condescendingly, "Well you KNOW they can't get married when they grow up, right??"

I pause for one heartbeat.... and I think to myself:

"Did she just say what I think she said? She must have, because that other nurse did a double-take and is now staring at her like she has weeds growing out of her nose. I'm guessing she heard the same thing I did. Who SAYS something like that? How am I supposed to respond to that? Think, Lori, think....I could say, "Well, that does it! If we can't sell their wedding presents to recover the costs of this adoption then I'm gonna call the whole thing off!" Is that too rude? Do I care? Seriously, he's FOUR and she's 18 months. Why, why, why would a person's mind even run in a direction where they would think we were expecting them to marry? What kind of idiot does she think I am? Actually, based on her question, I'm starting to believe there are a great many more types of idiots that I previously believed...."


...two heartbeats...

She was still staring at me, expecting a response to her bizarre question. I just looked at her steadily and said, "Yes, we're well aware of that."

Friday, October 3, 2008

I Hear Helena Is Lovely This Time of Year...

So American Airlines cancelled our flight from PAP to Miami this week. I had to call them to reschedule.

That meant I had the privilege of "speaking" with one of those "automated" systems that "understands" the words you say. That's always fun - you get to speak slowly and clearly and concisely. Things were going pretty well until we got the point that it was asking for my destination.

The phone system said, "What city?"

So I said, "Salt Lake."

It said, "I heard 'Helena, Montana'. Is that correct?"

And I started to laugh out loud.

Then it said, "I'm sorry. I didn't understand your response."

The irony...

But it made me think. As annoying as those systems are, it might actually be a good example for the rest of us. I'm sure there are MANY times when I'm involved in some sort of conflict or disagreement where the person is saying one thing and all I'm hearing is "Helena". What if the next time you were in a disagreement with someone you restated for clarity like that?

I'm not saying my coworkers and spouse would appreciate it if I started repeating things back to them slowly... But I will be on a "Helena" Watch for my next business meeting.

Yes, we did get our tickets rebooked. We have an extra night traveling home now. The flights out of PAP arrive in Miami too late to make a connection to anywhere and still make it there same day. So we'll find a place to bed down for the night.

As I write this, I'm still waiting for the confirmation of the itinerary change to come through from American Airlines. Hopefully that's all clear. If not, I hear Helena is lovely this time of year.

9 days...

Thursday, October 2, 2008

Why Camera Phones Where Invented...

Remember when I thought I broke my toe? My doc ripped off what was left of the toenail this week. That big white blob at the bottom is my new toenail coming in.
So I had to snap a picture before the nurse bandaged it up. Be grateful that the resolution on my phone isn't that great and that I chose "small" as the image size on this puppy!

So, here's the rub...

Doc says it make take a year for the new nail to grow all the way back in.

So I tell this to someone and that person says, "Hmm... I wonder if your kids will get home before your toenail grows back..."

Well, StinkyCheeseMan!! You didn't have to put it THAT way!

Wednesday, October 1, 2008

Checking In

Dear Zambrie, Abbie, Joey and Jordan,
I talked to your respective parents this last week. We're trying to get everything packed for our trip and Uncle Brent and I made a few trips to pick up the boxes of food we're taking down to you this time and then to drop it off to your parents so they can pack it.

I talked to Zambrie's Daddy. Oh, Z... he's so anxious to sweep you up in his arms and give you such a fabulous hug. I hope you know how much your mom and dad have done to help motivate others to give to support you and Nadia's orphanage. Your mom and dad are good people, Z. I see them in you. Somehow, you are all of the same spirit and what a beautiful one it is!

I talked to Abbie, Joey and Jordan's Daddy and Mommy. Oh, I hope some day that you'll be able to read in journals and letters about all the work that have gone into the process of loving you home. You have fine parents and they are GOOD. I've talked to you three in June. I told your Mommy that there's an extra something about those three siblings. They are meant for great things. And I've seen Abbie's face light up when they tell her that her America Momma is coming "next time".

We all need each other in this mess that is international adoption. We need the kids. The kids need us. The families need the families.

Oh, little ones! I hope you know that "next time" is here. Just a few more days and we're leaving on a jet plane. Sleep tight, little ones. Your mommas and daddies are coming.

11 days...